Victim's Anger........by Susan
During the past several days I have felt so much stress, anger and frustration because my 25 year old son is a bank teller who had a gun pointed inches from his face during a local bank robbery.
Needless to say, my son has been going through a lot of uncomfortable feelings.....one of which is anger. I believe it is victim's anger. I think he is starting to feel a little better and will heal in time. Everyone in town has been asking him questions. Hopefully that will die down soon. Small towns quickly find something new to buzz about.
During the robbery my son was told not to touch the alarm button or he would get his head blown off! He followed directions and kept everyone safe by doing so. I'm very thankful for that. I would have been shaking in fear but he was calm on the outside.
My son and another teller were able to give a perfect description of the robber (who was so dumb that he didn't cover his face or bring anything to put the money in. ) The robber was caught on Friday and is now behind bars....thank God!
I had a nightmare the night before the robber was apprehended. In it the robber came to our home to cause trouble for all of us. I woke my husband up twice wimpering in my sleep.
I wish I could visit that bank robber in jail and express my anger at him because of what he did to my son. I haven't felt so much stress for quite some time. Making my son a victim of a crime was a terrible thing, in my opinion. These things shouldn't happen to anyone, but it does, and I feel very angry about it. Feeling like a victim doesn't feel good at all. You feel helpless and then you feel angry, very angry.
My son is a smart and sensitive person who never in a million years deserved to be treated this way.....and yet he was. It makes me so mad! It definitely makes my son mad too. It has been difficult to contain my anger, which is why I thought writing about it might help. I've certainly talked about it with friends and relatives and so has my son.
Talking and writing are my two best therapies when it comes to dealing with negative feelings. I guess that's why David and I started this blog. Thank you so much for your support.
Needless to say, my son has been going through a lot of uncomfortable feelings.....one of which is anger. I believe it is victim's anger. I think he is starting to feel a little better and will heal in time. Everyone in town has been asking him questions. Hopefully that will die down soon. Small towns quickly find something new to buzz about.
During the robbery my son was told not to touch the alarm button or he would get his head blown off! He followed directions and kept everyone safe by doing so. I'm very thankful for that. I would have been shaking in fear but he was calm on the outside.
My son and another teller were able to give a perfect description of the robber (who was so dumb that he didn't cover his face or bring anything to put the money in. ) The robber was caught on Friday and is now behind bars....thank God!
I had a nightmare the night before the robber was apprehended. In it the robber came to our home to cause trouble for all of us. I woke my husband up twice wimpering in my sleep.
I wish I could visit that bank robber in jail and express my anger at him because of what he did to my son. I haven't felt so much stress for quite some time. Making my son a victim of a crime was a terrible thing, in my opinion. These things shouldn't happen to anyone, but it does, and I feel very angry about it. Feeling like a victim doesn't feel good at all. You feel helpless and then you feel angry, very angry.
My son is a smart and sensitive person who never in a million years deserved to be treated this way.....and yet he was. It makes me so mad! It definitely makes my son mad too. It has been difficult to contain my anger, which is why I thought writing about it might help. I've certainly talked about it with friends and relatives and so has my son.
Talking and writing are my two best therapies when it comes to dealing with negative feelings. I guess that's why David and I started this blog. Thank you so much for your support.
First of all, I duly express my sympathy to the bank teller who had to go through that terrible ordeal, he has every right to be angry, - anybody would, and it's a normal reaction. But he should above all else, take solace that he did the very right thing in remaining calm, cool, and collected. I'm not so sure I could do the very same under those circumstances! It was also commendable that he had the safety of customers and his fellow employees in mind. But that nobody else could’ve do more than he did, and that the scenario could've been much more worse if he decided to "John Wayne" it! Hard as it may be to perceive otherwise, but bank robbery does occur every so often, and that he happens to be in a profession that doesn't promise otherwise.
As long as he is willing to work in a place that has a lot of monetary exchanges on a daily basis situations like this might occur although in his case it won't happen again I pray. As for that dreg that held up bank. Take note that providence and karma have a way of meting out punishment to these recidivists’s who engage in these nefarious activities. There are support groups friends and family that can help you're son. Just be there when he needs you.
Plus if severe, there are professionals out there willing to help, maybe he can go to his local police precinct and discuss this to a law enforcement official that can help him cope with expert precision as they encounter this on a daily basis.
Either way, take heart, that at least he is alive today because of his wise actions as many other victims aren't who may have gone through the same situation, done the same, and gotten killed anyway! I pray that my comment has helped, and I also pray that the teller with time will get the help he needs, and to just take it a day at a time, and this too shall pass. God Bless! & Take care!
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I am so glad that the robber was caught! I really hope that you and your son can recover from this. I'll be thinking of both of you and sending you only good thoughts.
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Thank you so much. My son is doing really well now. If it had been me, I would still be jumping every time someone came in the door of the bank. I guess I think he was very brave. I sure appreciate your reply to my article.
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Thank you! I was very glad when I saw him on tv in handcuffs and chains. I had a nightmare about him the night before he was caught.
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Thanks so much for your comment. My son, the teller is doing well and is back to work after a short break. He talked some with me and his fiance', as well as the authorities. I'm proud that he was cool and calm (on the outside) and didn't try to John Wayne it. That would have been a disaster. Susan
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