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When Is the Right Time to Say Something?........by Susan
Posted by ozzieblackcat at 1/6/2008 7:29 PM and is filed under Relationships,depression,sadness,Mental Health,Family 
Have you ever felt like it was necessary to say something to someone that might cause them to become upset? How do you know when it is the right time to approach them?
Recently something happened in my life that was very upsetting to me and I became very depressed about the situation. I knew I would have to eventually speak up and let a loved one know how badly they hurt my feelings. At the same time, I knew I needed to refrain from saying anything until I was better able to cope with the situation myself and speak to them in a calm manner without making accusations.
I decided to wait until after the holidays so as not to cast a shadow on Thanksgiving, Christmas or New Years. It was a good decision, in my opinion. This week I was able to express my feelings without becoming upset or angry and therefore preserving the relationship with the other person. In years past, I didn't have this kind of control over my own hurt or angry feelings.
In my past, I often allowed others to treat me badly without my objecting to it. Or....I would object immediately and with anger. Now I feel like I can choose to either say something or not, and even choose when I want to say it. I guess I have made some progress with this thing called depression. I am sure that sometimes I'll slip back to my old way of handling problems, but I will also continue to take steps forward in the future.
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Recently something happened in my life that was very upsetting to me and I became very depressed about the situation. I knew I would have to eventually speak up and let a loved one know how badly they hurt my feelings. At the same time, I knew I needed to refrain from saying anything until I was better able to cope with the situation myself and speak to them in a calm manner without making accusations.
I decided to wait until after the holidays so as not to cast a shadow on Thanksgiving, Christmas or New Years. It was a good decision, in my opinion. This week I was able to express my feelings without becoming upset or angry and therefore preserving the relationship with the other person. In years past, I didn't have this kind of control over my own hurt or angry feelings.
In my past, I often allowed others to treat me badly without my objecting to it. Or....I would object immediately and with anger. Now I feel like I can choose to either say something or not, and even choose when I want to say it. I guess I have made some progress with this thing called depression. I am sure that sometimes I'll slip back to my old way of handling problems, but I will also continue to take steps forward in the future.
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