Do You Know Someone Who Behaves Aggressively? .........by Susan
Aggressive means "likely to attack", according to the Encarta Dictionary. Do you know anyone who behaves aggressively? I have some relatives who do. In fact, my own mother was a very aggressive person who often verbally and sometimes physically attacked her husband and her children.
In my early adult years I came to realize that my mother was severely depressed. I believe it is her depression which also accounted for her aggression. I recently read an article which appears to support my belief. According to the article we can receive a dopamine release as a result of aggressive behavior, thus encouraging aggression in some individuals. It's hard to accept that attacking her children caused my mom to feel better in some way. You can read the article from Fox News here: http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,323489,00.html Let me know if you reach similar conclusions to mine.
I know that relationships are important to all of us but we need to get away from those who treat us in an aggressive manner. It seems to me their brain is rewarding them for bad behavior and therefore are most unlikely to stop without the proper medical help. As children, we couldn't protect ourselves from aggressors but as adults we can. Walk away from aggressive people and don't let them have that dopamine reward at your expense. Hopefully the aggressors will seek help eventually and learn to receive the dopamine they need from prescription medication and a doctor's help rather than attacking others.
In my early adult years I came to realize that my mother was severely depressed. I believe it is her depression which also accounted for her aggression. I recently read an article which appears to support my belief. According to the article we can receive a dopamine release as a result of aggressive behavior, thus encouraging aggression in some individuals. It's hard to accept that attacking her children caused my mom to feel better in some way. You can read the article from Fox News here: http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,323489,00.html Let me know if you reach similar conclusions to mine.
I know that relationships are important to all of us but we need to get away from those who treat us in an aggressive manner. It seems to me their brain is rewarding them for bad behavior and therefore are most unlikely to stop without the proper medical help. As children, we couldn't protect ourselves from aggressors but as adults we can. Walk away from aggressive people and don't let them have that dopamine reward at your expense. Hopefully the aggressors will seek help eventually and learn to receive the dopamine they need from prescription medication and a doctor's help rather than attacking others.
Posted by ozzieblackcat at 1/18/2008 3:33 PM 
Categories: Relationships, depression, Anger, Family, Mental Health, Anxiety
Categories: Relationships, depression, Anger, Family, Mental Health, Anxiety
I ever met in my employed time, terrible experince. I like to live/talk/play/work with not aggressive people.
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Thank you for your comment. I also prefer non aggressive people. They are less threatening and much more likeable. Susan
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I feel as a child I was around my father who is an aggressive type personality. My friend said a "house devil / street angel" was her father. I got myself into a situation where I'm around my Dad and he won't hesitate for a minute to get physically violent with me even at age 43 and being a woman. I hate the environment I'm in right now. I have to be strong and get moving and get out. He hold money over my head as a carrot but I know I can make it on my own. The type of control isn't worth a dime of his money. I know when I move out things will be better with the relationship not living under the same roof. I think his mother must have been extremely aggressive. I keep trying to speculate where his temper came from and his brother's have the same one too. However, there is no self reflection at all. My Dad was violent growing up. His temper was so unpredictable. You never knew when he would explode with anger and claims to not remember it. That within itself makes me very irate. How can a person forget deplorable behavior? Thank you for the post!
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I'm really sorry about the situation you are in and I hope you can find some help getting away from him. You can do it! Take care, Susan
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I read and feel like home. Thanks to the creators of the good life!
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