Why Do People Lie?
People in general tell all kinds of lies. Some folks only tell the little social white lies such as saying, "I can't meet you for lunch because I have a meeting"....or the tell someone they love their hair color when they don't mean it at all. I hate this kind of stuff and make every effort not to do these things. I do, however, accept that these things happen, a lot. What really concerns me though, are the relationship lies that many people tell.
When we're in a relationship with someone shouldn't we treat them with respect by telling them the truth? If we lose interest in them, should we tell them? If we start having feelings for someone else, should we tell them? In my opinion, if we want to preserve the relationship we are in, we need to be truthful. So often I have heard it said that a person withheld the truth or told a lie in order to protect their partner. Since when do lies protect people?
I think most of us can handle the hurt we feel from being told the truth. We'll suffer for a while, but hopefully, we'll work through the problem with our loved one or another person who cares about us. Most of us have a much more difficult time handling the pain caused by lies. Finding out something hurtful and adding lies on top of it is a double whammy! Not only do we suffer the painful truth, but also the painful realization that our loved one cannot be trusted to share that truth. Since most relationships need trust to succeed, it's my opinion that telling lies destroys relationships.
People are human and we all make mistakes but is telling a lie a mistake, or a deliberate act to protect ourselves?
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When we're in a relationship with someone shouldn't we treat them with respect by telling them the truth? If we lose interest in them, should we tell them? If we start having feelings for someone else, should we tell them? In my opinion, if we want to preserve the relationship we are in, we need to be truthful. So often I have heard it said that a person withheld the truth or told a lie in order to protect their partner. Since when do lies protect people?
I think most of us can handle the hurt we feel from being told the truth. We'll suffer for a while, but hopefully, we'll work through the problem with our loved one or another person who cares about us. Most of us have a much more difficult time handling the pain caused by lies. Finding out something hurtful and adding lies on top of it is a double whammy! Not only do we suffer the painful truth, but also the painful realization that our loved one cannot be trusted to share that truth. Since most relationships need trust to succeed, it's my opinion that telling lies destroys relationships.
People are human and we all make mistakes but is telling a lie a mistake, or a deliberate act to protect ourselves?
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Posted by ozzieblackcat at 1/20/2008 7:13 PM 
Categories: Relationships, depression, Anger, Mental Health, Stress, Anxiety
Categories: Relationships, depression, Anger, Mental Health, Stress, Anxiety
I encountered people who lies. Too many liars and cheaters in this world. Can you imagine sleeping beside the liar every night, the person whom we trust so much? Only to be discovered their betrayals?http://www.peaceinspire.com/2007/01/31/why-men-lie/
No amount of words can explain their actions.
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Yes, I can imagine that and I understand the feelings betrayal that you must feel. Thank you for your comment and please keep reading our blog. Susan
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i dn'g think so to protect ourselves we need tell lie to anyone if u r in true relationship than ur partner or ppl can easily understand ur situation or ur mental position that now u wont like their company. according to tell truth them straight true can preserve ur relationship when u need them again but as partner or friend if someone tell us that they dn't like our company then we also need to understand without hard feelings need to happily breakup.
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Since I am a licensed psychoogist, I am going to try to explain the little lies we tell everyday. Let's take as example: "I can't take lunch with you because I have a super secret meeting
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Thank you for your comment. I appreciate you reading our blog. Susan
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Thanks for your comment. Susan
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i think some people get abdicated to lie hahaha, really one of the interesting topic i found, good thought like it..
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Thanks a lot for commenting!
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I like your article. In this article focus on fact thing in our life. Some guys habit of telling lie and that's reason some times we suffer to it. But A person who understand you he never expect lie from you. So, please don't break some body's trust.
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People lie beacuse they cannot face the truth
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Interesting comment. Thank you. Susan
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I'm one of those people that hate lying and will never tell you you look like you lost weight if you don't. My friends tell me I'm "brutal" with honesty because I find it hard to keep my mouth shut if I think it might help you if you hear the truth. Which is worse ?? I find most people don't want to hear the truth.
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I also tend to tell the truth too often. I did learn one rule of thumb to go by though. Consider whether or not the person you are speaking to is ready to hear the truth or if it will damage them to hear it. That way you consider the other person's feelings before blurting it out. This has helped me in some circumstances. Thanks so much for your comment. Susan
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woman lie too. Don't forget that.
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Lie is sweat but the truth is now sweat.So people lie so that the person standing on front end to be happy.
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Hi Not only men lie. I am open and honest but married a woman who cannot tell the truth. It is hard
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