Protect Loved Ones From Resentment
by David
Sometimes we have to protect our loved ones from their own resentment. Imagine you are having a good day and all of a sudden something very unnatural happens. A loved one says something or does something that hurts you or makes you angry. You react and now there are two of you acting in an unnatural way. What if you were able to not react?
Some might call not reacting, turning the other cheek. A lot of people have trouble doing this. Well, this isn't a religion lesson where you feel you must become like a monk to get along in the world by not reacting to your loved ones resentment and/or cruelty. However, if you can stop reacting, you might help them to see what is going on. It takes two to fight. If you remain neutral it doesn't have to mean you are turning the other cheek. It means you're not going to be drawn into a disease I call resentment.
Your loved ones don't know how to cope with neutrality. You may not know either. but looking at it the right way may change your mind about it. The world is full of people who think their way is the right way and at the snap of a finger can become resentful, angry or even violent towards someone.
If someone takes their resentment out on you, neutralize the situation or take a break. After all, you may be wrong. If we harbor resentment we can't see that we are sometimes wrong because we can't see anything clearly. Take care of your little corner of the world, your friends, your loved ones............and you.
Posted by ozzieblackcat at 9/26/2008 3:03 PM 
Categories: Anger,ozzieblackcat,depression,Relationships,Mental Health,His and Hers,Family
Categories: Anger,ozzieblackcat,depression,Relationships,Mental Health,His and Hers,Family
Sometimes I wish I could not react to people when they say things that hurt me or anger me.
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I know what you mean. It can be really hard not to react. We can only do our best.
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Hi Uncle David. I enjoyed your article! Good points and I agree.
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Very good post. I wish I could take the advice. Next time something cruel is said to me, I'll have to stop and breathe in and remember this post. Thank you.
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