Let Go and Move On
by Susan
Let Go and Move On are things we are often told to do when we are trying to recover from something that has upset us. Mental Health professionals, friends and relatives mean well and are correct in saying that's what we need to do. However, letting go and moving on are often very difficult when it involves our relationships with family members.
How many times are we expected to let go and move on with the same family members? Is this why some families fall apart in time? Do other family members get tired of all the stress? In my opinion talking and even arguing about the issue is the best way to clear the air and move past the problems. But, when some family members refuse to discuss anything more relevant than the weather, you have no choice but to deal with problems another way. Let go and move on enter into play......but at what price?
With each incident It takes me longer to let go and move on when dealing with silent family members. I know how difficult it will be to eventually get together and pretend it didn't happen. I don't like dealing with that difficulty.....pretending. I don't like denial in others and refuse to be in a state of denial myself. I spent too many years in the past in a state of denial, with my head stuck in the sand. It isn't healthy. In my opinion, let go and move on is only good advice after the issue has been dealt with.
I don't know if this article makes any sense to anyone but me, but I had to write it and I appreciate all who read it.
Posted by ozzieblackcat at 1/3/2009 9:54 AM 
Categories: Relationships, family, ozzieblackcat, depression, stress, Mental Health
Categories: Relationships, family, ozzieblackcat, depression, stress, Mental Health
Hi Susan,
Unfortunately the 'default' much of our western world operates on, is ignoring painful issues. Its like its not considered polite or something to discuss upsets.
Which is actually kinda nuts.
Its certainly one of my issues, that my family can't or won't be supportive of what I'm going through. They simply don't have the emotional wherewithal I suspect. And I've had to learn to accept that... not that I really have yet. I'm still working on that one!
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Absolutely this makes sense to other people! Can you imagine saying "let go" or "move on" to someone whose wife or husband died yesterday? Of course not; letting go and moving on can only happen with time, and often it happens only when you have come to terms with the underlying issues.
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Letting go is very difficult because we as humans never let go when something happens to us, the only way we can let go is by confronting the problem and expressing our feelings. Ignoring painful situation can sooner or later revealed again in a later time when a similar situation is occurs. Now the only way we can forget these things is by believing in Jesus Christ He will show us how to forgive the way he forgive those who crucified him on the cross.
I had your exact same issues and I trier to forget but I knew it wasn't working for me so I decide to come to Jesus and ask him to help forgive and love those who offended me in one way or another.
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Thanks so much for your comment!
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Whoa, way too applicable... Very nice/ original topics. Interesting in that, in my case, I'm applying this advice to a past realtionship. Thank you for your words!
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Thank you so much for your comment. I'm glad to be of help and hope you will continue to visit my blog. Susan
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I enjoyed your story very much susan especially since i've had an experience like that in my own past i had two graduations the first one none of my parents showed up later they told me it was because they were at work so i understood but on the second one my father showed up but after i got off that stage i had only got one award he said its really not worth both being there if i only got one . made me feel like it wasn't worth living after that . i felt worthless i tried to forgive him but i can't
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Thanks so much for your comment. I'm really sorry you were treated that way and I understand the pain you feel. You definitely aren't worthless. Susan
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It would be possible for another
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