Complications
I like things to be simple. I'm not sure why but it may have something to do with my depression and anxiety problems. Complications that arise when I'm planning something can upset me and complications while I'm trying to do something can upset me even more. Usually, the hardest complications for me to deal with are those involving get togethers with family members. I suppose this would fall into the category of social anxiety.
Relationships with family members aren't always the easiest relationships to maintain.....especially if you have lots of siblings and sibling rivalry. I find it is easiest to visit with my siblings one at a time. It isn't so overwhelming that way and we aren't ganging up on each other or making fun of each other nearly as much as when there are three or more of us together.
I'm writing about this today because I'm already worrying about a get together that is planned for the upcoming weekend with two of my siblings, both of whom I love dearly. I guess I'm just a worry wart but more than two siblings at a time feels like complications of the worst kind. Stressing about it will only make matters worse so I think writing it down may help me to get past these feelings of dreadful anticipation that I'm experiencing. Hopefully, by the weekend I will be looking forward to seeing my relatives.
Below is a picture of one of my flower beds in May.
I can relieve stress with gardening so maybe I'll
work in the flower beds this week.
Relationships with family members aren't always the easiest relationships to maintain.....especially if you have lots of siblings and sibling rivalry. I find it is easiest to visit with my siblings one at a time. It isn't so overwhelming that way and we aren't ganging up on each other or making fun of each other nearly as much as when there are three or more of us together.
I'm writing about this today because I'm already worrying about a get together that is planned for the upcoming weekend with two of my siblings, both of whom I love dearly. I guess I'm just a worry wart but more than two siblings at a time feels like complications of the worst kind. Stressing about it will only make matters worse so I think writing it down may help me to get past these feelings of dreadful anticipation that I'm experiencing. Hopefully, by the weekend I will be looking forward to seeing my relatives.
Below is a picture of one of my flower beds in May.
I can relieve stress with gardening so maybe I'll
work in the flower beds this week.
Posted by ozzieblackcat at 6/15/2009 10:58 AM 
Categories: ozzieblackcat,depression blog,mental health,His and Hers
Tags: family depression anxiety relationships social anxiety
Categories: ozzieblackcat,depression blog,mental health,His and Hers
Tags: family depression anxiety relationships social anxiety
You are not alone if you think it is easier and more rewarding to meet
with small groups. I remember when
I was first reading about Jackie
Kennedy that she preferred small
dinner parties. I prefer that, too.
We have found that the more people
you have to consider even in making
the arrangements, the more impossible
it seems to become. I remember when
I would be so excited as we planned
what Al was going to fix. He would
do the steaks in an indoor barbeque
he received as a wedding present from
his Uncle Calvin's hardware store in
Ohio. He would always need peppers
and olives, etc. to arrange salads
in clear glass salad bowls sort of
like the Shady Inn used to have with
the egg and a slice of pepper arranged
on top and I always had trouble fitting
them in the frig--not too high or they
might freeze and there was never room
in the middle or at the bottom and
sometimes he liked to use wide salad
plates for a change, but I would be
getting into the mood and I'd say
"Oh, we have to ask Hazel. She would
so love to come" and he would remind
me that it was better to keep focused
on our original plan and invite others
and give them special attention on
another occassion. Too many distractions can ruin anything including my classes at school. If
the intercom kept coming on, we would
lose our place and lose time getting
back on the subject or the bell would
ring and we'd have to go to another
class or something. The intrusion I
hated most was the same parents who
would call in almost daily to pick
up their child early and have it announced over the intercom almost
as if they enjoyed the notoriety
with no consideration for our
valuable time.
The thing I appreciate most is the
few people from my high school class
who take on the job of setting a time
and place for everyone to meet. There
is not a time that would suit everyone
to a tee and the ones who make the
effort to attend and to bring a picture
or two to share are amazing. And at
the meeting, it is frustrating trying
to have time to catch up with everbody
and the people who head it up are
appreciated many times over. I need
to try harder to get there to do my
part. The ones who are able to do
this over and over are ones I always
claimed as friends to everyone--not
just a few.
Even what people consider being on
time differs from person to person.
I would always do my best and the
first thing my dad would say was,
"I knew you were coming by you being
so long about it". I never could
understand the logic of that because
I would try to be overly early like
he always was. Then after he spent
his last two years in a care center,
I realized those words are his words
of endearment that I miss as much as
getting to see him again. I'm guessing
that his comment was unique just as he
was. As the speaker from hospice said
at his graveside service"He was a
man of God" and when we meet again, he
might say it again.
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You have a great looking garden I love to work in mine altho mine does not look as pretty as yours. Smile I enjoy working in it. Stopped by to say helo and to let you know I hope you stop by soon and visit my blogs as always we have to reach our goals. I may make it by Christmas Ha ha ha.
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Thank you so much for your comment. I can tell you that you understand what I was talking about. Have you considered writing a blog about your experiences? I think it would be amazing. Thanks again.
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Thank you for reading my blog. I'll visit yours again in a few minutes. My garden doesn't always look that good.
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I understand exactly what you mean. It's tough not to worry about things before they get there. I do that a lot, and often when in reality things turn out fine. I think on some level I like to know that I would be okay if it went badly, though; That I would be prepared, or have some plan of action. If I don't worry, I guess I feel like I'll be caught off guard if problems do arise.
Really, I'd probably be better off just rolling with the punches when they came and relaxing a lot more the rest of the time. Ah well.
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So why not do exactly what you want to do, see them one by one? I think it is important to listen to our guts, rather than do what is expected from us.
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Yes, i am also very stressed with lots and lots of problems, but i think that if i was less stressed i would have far less problems =\
So i have found out that i have to eliminate some of them and worrying too much and being stressed is not going to help these problems =\ So we shouldn't be so stressed =\
nice garden by the way =)
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Beautiful garden.
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My husband always says that I worry too much.....I am not sure how true is that..how can one tell if he/she is down and feel frustrated and depressed?
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